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Jul 6, 2009 2:38 PM
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My heart truely goes out to your mother. I know it's
difficult to deal with. I know when I was activly in
my addiction [ alcohol ] I said things to people that I
didn't mean. The horrible part was - I knew I didn't
mean them when I said them. I was hurting - and I
wanted other people to hurt with me. I've tried to make amends to those people that I was able to. But
that doesn't stop the hurt that ugly angry words can
bring. And the saddest part that even most expers now tend to agree with - that love and addiction don't
have one thing to do with each other. You can love someone with everything you have, but when that addiction takes over - there it goes.
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Prayers & Hugs to All
Have a Blessed Day - Ace
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Jul 3, 2009 3:30 PM
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I'm fortunate (for lack of a better word) in that the members of my family who are using are all extended members of my mother's family. They don't directly hurt me at all.
But they do hurt my mother and that has done more to color my perception of users and abusers than any high school health class could. When Mom breaks down crying after getting a nasty letter from her sister my feelings lean toward the violent side. That anybody could be so wrapped up in their selfishness and greed to do that to a sweet old lady sickens me.
This episode brought up memories of her father, who drank himself to an early grave.
I'm afraid I've gotten a bit off topic. Sorry everyone.
It was a hard episode to watch for me.
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From:
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Jul 2, 2009 2:38 PM
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Psychodahlia, You know the sad thing is addiction
hits almost every family at some point in time. I'm
sure if you asked 1000 people if anyone in their family
has or has had a substance abuse problem, my bet is the large majority would say yes.
and owl, It is true that many people unless they have
seen addiction up close and personal - have no real
concept of all that it intails or how hard the addict in
most cases struggles to get clean and stay clean
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Prayers & Hugs to All
Have a Blessed Day - Ace
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Edited by aceofhearts2008 at 07/02/2009 11:42 AM PDT
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Jul 1, 2009 10:50 PM
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This was a heart wrenching episode, one that hit close to home for me. I watched it with my mother and every now and then she was say something about her dad and it made me want to cry.
The acting was very good, the father especially. Guilt, rage, self-hatred, he played the part very well.
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Jul 1, 2009 10:57 AM
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Another heart wrenching episode. My husband is a Marine Vietnam Vet and has seen/done things that most cannot phantom.
The downside was his belief, that, since he made it out in one piece and has done nicely for himself over the years, everyone else should have too. There are no excuses/crutches for addiction. You are just weak.
William's point that "He" gives us birth and "He" gives us death, leaving the middle up to us is powerful.
It took many years for my husband to understand that ANYONE can have an addiction. Just because it's not in your "house" doesn't deny its existence.
I have always believed that we are all weak and need someone. But "in the middle", where the sh** really hits us, is when those who deny needing anyone, need someone the most.
Thank God for people like William Bell.
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